Is it true that it seems never to end well if parents get involved?
In the Analects of Confucian, Confucianism assigns women to
stereotypical social categories, such as filial daughters, dedicated mothers,
and faithful wives who sacrifice themselves to make their men such as brothers,
husbands, and sons great. Time does change the way the Analects of Confucian
teaches, which some believers do still follow nowadays.
Separation
Separation
Her father denied her the phone calls from her boyfriend. Her father had his own reasons, such as family background or career things.
She
didn’t want a sheltered life from her parents.Living the way as she was doing would become a habit after a while she
thought, and then a self dignity no longer existed she was afraid of. She
seemed a pampered daughter to her parents when it came to
the time she stood it no more.
Not everyone married for love and forever her mother told her more than once, and she understood why. The relationship would end in an unpredictable date or in a way unacceptable her mother also convinced her.
Her father tried to make her believe that the ruse a guy used to own her heart wouldn’t fall until after a breakup or a divorce. She wasn’t right to give herself to someone like him, for example, her father mentioned. She won’t be respected after what she did to her own family her father also assured her of this too. She could lose everything without the right timing to get married her father insisted.
She was nearly close to break down. She just needed to find her own way out. She didn’t believe her sisters or friends would be on her side. She made her own decision. She had no doubt about it that things would be very difficult for her alone to deal with. However, what she could do was to have a shot at it.
She gave her mother a nightly call to check if her father was okay after she moved out. She knew her father would never be getting better but worse, who hadn’t said a word to her when she left home for good.
She tossed around and dreamed of him and her family. Sometimes, she woke up in the middle of night and couldn’t go back to sleep. She was alone, and felt lonely.
What her torment code was
There were questions which inundated her mind and weren't mentioned to her boyfriend. She didn’t discuss it with him either about what and how they would like to do together in the future.
He didn’t know why she quit her job, left home and came up to
Taipei. She was quiet when he met her. She didn’t say much, but gave him
impression that she desperately needed to find a job.
He was pleased with no more writing to her or acting like a reject
treated by her father. He thought he could see her on weekends finally. The
complaints from her about hardly talking to him on the phone was over
finally.
She could wait for him a couple years. That was a promise she gave
to her parents, especially her mother, to marry in two years and come home to
visit them as often as possible. For her, timing had high priority over everything. She had to settle down.
She loved him dearly and knew that he was a late bloomer. He needed
time to reach the full potential in his own way. She didn’t
want to push him. Of course, it definitely took him more than two years. How
could she talk about things like career or marriage when he was not ready?
He completed the army service and was at loose ends after that. He wondered what he’d make a living while she earned
her living as an assistant secretary eventually. She
had latent ability and was adept at her new job, paid handsomely for it by her
company.
Money wasn’t a problem to both of them because they didn’t do much
to pay. They spent time together the simple way like what they had done before
graduating from school. Having a cup of coffee or dinner, or watching a movie
on weekends made them feel kind of euphoria. That seemed enough for both of
them.
However, she had pressure from her parents, who rattled away who questions after
questions about if she met his parents or he found a job on the phone or in
person when she went home, not noticing her feeling and backward reaction. Sometimes,
she tried not to call or see them.
But, the thought planted might be real that her father couldn’t live out another year to
marry her off. What they had said might be true
because an invitation from him to visit his family didn’t occur. What happened
just happened between both of them, pure and nothing about a sexual urge. That
was also the reason she loved him, who didn’t push her. She was a late bloomer
too about this.
Having fun with him made her delighted. That was what she really wanted. It was getting harder and harder when she found she was caught in
between him and her parents. He was young and deserved more time to develop
himself, but her father’s illness was deteriorating. At nights, she thought about her
father and then felt guilty. How could she be happy while her father was
suffering from illness? She cried then.
Either
A lack of their
dreams about their future was a significant sign of a relationship which surely
ended up a breakup after a year stay in Taipei. She never said one word to him either about her true intentions to leave home or how much she loved him. It was hard and
terrible for her to keep the feeling towards him unsaid. She chickened out. She
decided to take each day they were together as it would come.
She ignored the
phone calls to her residence. She needed to be alone time to herself. She knew her
mother tried to get her home to meet someone her parents thought was a good
match for her.
It was truly sad
that the relationship was destined to end. She knew what had left her. Feeling
empty inside would be always there for her to absorb.
Once she walked
away from home, she could make it happen to walk away again from him. She
believed that all of which of a sudden separation should make it easier between
both of them.
Or
A shotgun wedding seemed
the only option for both of them to carry on after he completed the army
service. However, pregnancy wasn’t allowed to be put on hold and they knew it was impossible to work out within that certain time frame. Sadly, she
had to do something on her own.
Maria knew that she was at the risk of putting her parents and herself to shame, but the life of baby was a top priority. She couldn’t wait…
She did not feel
fully welcome in her office anymore after her boss informed her colleagues of
her pregnancy. Nothing truly hurt her until it happened to her.
She
ignored the innuendo and returned them the sardonic grin, carrying
her big belly, swinging her
small bag over her shoulder and walking heavy steps in front of the eyes of her
colleagues.
Was this a cheap entertainment for them to chat behind her while she was absent during the pregnancy? She fought not to let them get under her skin.
Was this a cheap entertainment for them to chat behind her while she was absent during the pregnancy? She fought not to let them get under her skin.
It didn’t matter
anymore if she learned to fight for herself and the coming baby too. She gradually
became more and more reclusive, and had a reputation for being cold and emotionless.
It was much easier
and better for her and her parents not to make regular visits or phone calls to
her parents. She hardly went home before she delivered her baby. Her father
believed she’d had an abortion, so did her mother. Her father never met her boy
before he passed away. She was still single then.
She ran the ads or
asked acquaintances if she could find a live-in help to look after her baby. She worked through every possible angle, but she
definitely failed. No one was available.
The only way left her was to leave her little baby to a woman who was willingly to take the
caring-baby job during the working hours. And, she also faced the fact that she
and her baby were given small stipends on it to live for a long while until
he joined her.
She understood at the
very beginning of dating that he needed to go aboard to fulfill his own promise
to be what he really wanted to be. The
fact was cruel that there wasn’t a decent job market for language majors at
that time. She also realized that he wasn’t equipped with
the skills to get along well with his colleagues by making nice talks especially
in a private company. That was why he seemed moody and disappointed after work.
He failed to hide his feelings in front of her.
Marriage shouldn’t
be a bond between them she considered. She should let him go. He reluctantly agreed it and finally
took leave. She did appreciate that being together for two years allowed her to
collect the wonderful memories, which were always kept in her heart. But, it was
a blur to her boy that his father was holding him tight, the warmth from which
his father couldn’t forget.
They never met
again, but lost each other.
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